|This is a NON fashion related post.|
What’s the first thing that comes to our mind when we think about love?
Happiness, caring, beautiful, and perfect just to name a few. But what actually is love? For me love is a confusing situation, yes I may be happy and feel as if being in love is the most wonderful thing, but what really is love about? I mean, what’s the point of it? After all love isn’t JUST all those nice things, it’s much more than that…
Along the way you get frustrated, angry, confused, hurt and upset, no matter what type of relationship your in, your always gunner have some sort of bumpy ride.
You can love your partner with all your heart and more, likewise with them, but that doesn’t ever stop you from getting hurt. When you love someone, I feel like your also signing up to be upset along the way, maybe it’s due to the fact that things are never perfect? Take last night for instance, me and my boyfriend were supposed to go out, so I get ready and then he calls me up after I’m fully dressed saying ‘there’s been a change of plan, we can’t go out tonight, but I can meet up with you later on at night?’ Now I suppose in a way I’m supposed to be grateful because at least I can still see him, but that doesn’t stop me from getting hurt. It’s the fact that he decided to tell me this AFTER I had finished getting ready. Yeah I suppose some people would say, ‘oh is that it? It’s not even an issue’ BUT believe you me, me and Isaac (my partner) have gone through a lot of hurt and upset - my point exactly.
Why do we love when we know we’re going to get hurt? What attracts us to it? Is it the good times we have? Do those good times outweigh the bad times? But then what if the bad times gets worse? What if you find yourself having more bad times than you do good times - what happens then? Sometimes this is the situation, and a lot of people go through it, but they never leave… Why is this? Some would say it’s because they don’t want to let go, some people just stay for the mere fact that they don’t want to be lonely. But I think it’s more deep than that;
I think that when you hit the point where you’ve been with that same person constantly arguing for years, and you know you should leave. You just can’t. It’s because you build up a force with that person, it’s like that person becomes you, you know each other inside out, so to leave would be like losing a part of you right? I think some people get scared to leave because they feel as if their parting from their comfort zone - your so used to being with that same person that the thought of change
But when it comes to situations like this, you should not hesitate to leave - after all, the constant arguing, the constant hurt and upset will only cause you to lose yourself more and more as a person, ultimately affecting your personality, confidence, your relationships, and your work. How does that form of ‘love’ make you happy? It doesn’t. You may think it does, but it don’t: you can’t physically be upset a majority of the time yet still be
Being in love makes it extremely difficult in any circumstance to let go, but what you have to remember, is that if you don’t leave a relationship when that person isn’t making you feel as happy as you should - then you don’t love yourself enough, and if you don’t love yourself, then how can you even really love someone else?
P.S the new issue of RWD mag is here with Jessie J on our front cover :)
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